003 – Mind the Gap (Part 2)
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Pastors Brad and Alex continue their conversation on “minding the gap” between our expectations and reality. This week, they look at three ways to build trust so that you can fill the gap well: vulnerability, relationship, and developing history. Additionally, they talk about practical ways we can grow in our ability to trust and manage expectations.

— Referenced Works —

Andy Stanley Trust vs. Suspicion – Choosing to Trust. A talk given to pastors about how to fill the gaps between our expectations and reality. https://vimeo.com/250682391

— Recommended Reading to Dig Deeper —

Boundaries and Safe People by Cloud and Townsend (B4). Both books outline how to create and build healthy relationships.

Keep Your Love On by Danny Silk (B4). Unintentional communication methods often cause gaps in relationships, Danny talks about how to keep love as the plumb line for your communication.

For more on vulnerability investigate Brene Brown: TED talk and Daring Greatly are great places to start. (YouTube, Amazon). Brene is the leading voice on vulnerability, she is forthright and direct in her content. (Note – her language is not appropriate for children).


For more on the Enneagram, a great starting point is The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron (B4). There is a wealth of information on the Enneagram. Cron offers a balanced overview of it. Another resource that applies this tool to relationships is The Path Between Us by Suzanne Stabile

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B4Church provides recommendations for books, podcasts, and other resources as a service to our congregation and the community at large. These resources will not always reflect B4’s theology, values or doctrinal positions on controversial issues. The views and opinions expressed in recommended books, articles, and other resources are those of the authors or guests and do not necessarily reflect the convictions of B4Church or The FourSquare Church in general. If you have any questions about this disclaimer, please contact CarolAnne Tsai, Adult Ministries Resource Coordinator.